Friday, May 05, 2006


The bravest battle that ever was fought!
Shall I tell you where and when?
On the maps of the world you will find it not;
'Twas fought by the mothers of men.

Nay not with the cannon of battle-shot,
With a sword or noble pen;
Nay, not with eloquent words or thought
From mouth of wonderful men!

But deep in a walled-up woman's heart --
Of a woman that would not yield,
But bravely, silently bore her part --
Lo, there is the battlefield!

No marshalling troops, no bivouac song,
No banner to gleam and wave;
But oh! those battles, they last so long --
From babyhood to the grave.

Yet, faithful still as a bridge of stars,
She fights in her walled-up town --
Fights on and on in her endless wars,
Then silent, unseen, goes down.

Oh, ye with banners and battle-shot,
And soldiers to shout and paise!
I tell you the kingliest victories fought
Were fought in those silent ways.

O spotless woman in a world of shame,
With splendid and silent scorn,
Go back to God as white as you came --
The Kingliest warrior born!

- Joaquin Miller (1839-1913), Motherhood.

4 comments:

  1. Anonymous5:51 AM

    Hi Evan,

    It's so good to see you getting bigger and better - keep up the good work. Your mummy was certainly radiant when she was pregnant with you. We feel for you when we think of how much your mummy wanted you and so looked forward to having you. She would be so proud of how handsome you look and what a fighter you are in your struggle to be healthy and well. Lots of love always from the Lees

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  2. Anonymous4:36 PM

    Dear Evan,
    Papa is right that it is still early days, but I think that while no news is good news, there has been some news - the fact that you have been eating more and getting stronger and reacting to those around you and smiling and pouting...all this is good news, I think (even posing like Michael Flatley…tell Uncle Bernie I responded to his comment on this in the same thread that he posted it in…).

    Papa has reason to be happy - and we will continue praying for you.

    Our faith, your mummy's faith, tells us she is in a place of unparalleled happiness; but our humanity, your papa's humanity, makes us perhaps question this. We not only believe, but WANT to believe that she is happier because we seek comfort and understanding/reconciliation; and hope that it gives some comfort to your papa as well.

    That said, your papa is right in that he will indeed have many craggy mountains to cross and scorching deserts to trudge in search for an answer, and he needs an answer. BUT he will not be entirely alone on this search of this for he has you with him - you and our prayers that he will find the answer he seeks, and sooner than later. It probably won’t be so clear, so he will have to look very carefully.

    You must continue to get better and stronger and be his strength and companion in his journey - while we can't journey with you, some (like your grand-parents and uncle/s and auntie/s, and your mummy's many friends)are on similar journeys of their own - although your papa's is likely to be the toughest, we will pray for you.

    God Bless!!

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  3. Anonymous7:25 PM

    Dear Colin,

    No mother who is looking forward to cuddling her first baby, nursing him, and sharing those parental moments with a loving husband and father, would ever want to leave her child and husband so early and so suddenly. As a mother of 3, I know and can affirm that.

    As a Christian sister, I can only say this ... Frances is with Our Lord Jesus Christ in heaven, the final and ultimate destination for all His believers. She is home.

    I can't comment on whether she is happier away from you and Evan ... my human soul tells me it can't be so ... she loved both of you too much.

    My Christian conscience tells me that we have to continue to trust in His grace and love, and that those of us who care must continue our prayers for Evan's growth, and for your emotional and spiritual recovery.

    The Tohs are all praying for you and Evan, and we will continue to do so.

    Stay well and strong in the Lord.

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  4. Anonymous6:36 PM

    I feel your pain. i dont think my words (from a complete stranger) can comfort you. nevertheless, be strong for Evan so that some day he can make Frances and you proud!
    May God Bless your family and rest assured that many are praying hard for you....and that includes me :)

    love
    the WANs
    p/s: give Evan a BIG hug and kiss from the 3 of us

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